You’ve seen many examples in your life where one partner is more attractive than the other. When you notice this difference, you may feel bad about why you are still single. In general, couples are supposed to be two equally attractive people who are equally attractive in looks, intelligence, and finances.
For you to have a clearer comparison, let’s imagine your own dating experience. Do you consider yourself an attractive person? Is it pretty attractive or just average? It’s not unusual for someone you’ve dated in the past to be more attractive than you are. Next, how would you feel if you dated someone a little taller than you?
First, let’s assume you’re with a great person. The face and the body are worth imitating, and the confidence is there. When you decide to go shopping together and you find someone staring at your date all the time, or even complimenting him/her on his/her good looks in front of you, how do you feel, jealous or proud?
Usually, in this situation, we have two psychological cues. First, tell yourself that you must be considered cool, sexy, or rich to be attractive. Second, you might wonder if other people are trying to figure out why such a beautiful person is with someone like you. If you tend to be jealous, you might think that countless people must notice, even approach, and chat you up when your date is not around.
The moral of the story is: if you think you’re attractive and confident enough, you should date someone more attractive than you are.
Hopefully, you know what your insecurities are and you’ve reflected on how they developed. Ideally, you can take steps to manage your insecurities and work on improving your self-esteem. Deep down inside of us, we know exactly what we can handle.
For those who are less concerned about their appearance and have high self-esteem, dating someone more attractive has little difficulty. Why is that? Because physical appearance is not one of the most important characteristics they value in a potential mate. So for them, the attractiveness of their date — the beauty of their date — doesn’t matter that much. For these people, it’s as if the beautiful person they’re dating happens to be very attractive, but they can accept or not accept this extreme attraction.
On the other hand, many people are very concerned about their appearance. If your appearance is very important to you, and you care as much or more about the appearance of your date, pay attention to your thoughts and feelings as they relate to the attractiveness of your date. If your attraction to yourself tends to be insecure, jealous or doesn’t believe that you are a great bag with many advantages, being more attractive to someone is a horrible idea that can lead to anxiety, self-sabotage, and a lot of tension.
I believe that life would be easier and more harmonious if looks were not so important in our culture. The amount of time women — and increasingly men — spend trying to be more attractive is staggering: cosmetic surgery, botox injections, fillers, hair cuts, and dyes, tanning, makeup, night cream, weight lifting, body hair trimming, and so on. What you can’t imagine, what people can’t do without the power to be beautiful, to be attractive.
There has been a great deal of controversy about the ways to make yourself beautiful since ancient times. In my opinion, if an ordinary person spends a lot of time and money in order to be more attractive, but the final fact turns out that they don’t become more powerful in heart, let alone confident. Some of them are simply happy and confident for a short time because of their attractive appearance. Therefore, I believe that if you invest a lot of time and money in yourself, whether it is physical management, knowledge or life experience, the rewards will be great and lasting.
